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We’re making headlines! 🎉 IRL Social Skills is empowering neurodivergent youth with real-world social skills—and the world is noticing. Featured in The New York Times and more, our innovative approach is helping teens and adults build confidence, connection, and independence.
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Support for Families of Neurodivergent Teens and young adults 💙
Navigating social challenges can be tough—but you don’t have to do it alone. IRL Social Skills provides expert-led coaching and practical strategies to help neurodivergent teens and adults, as well as parents and caregivers, build confidence, friendships, and real-world independence.
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Real Stories, Real Impact: See How IRL Changes Lives 🌟
At IRL Social Skills, we've witnessed transformative journeys:
Increased Confidence: Participants report a boost in self-esteem after mastering new social skills.
Improved Relationships: Families share stories of enhanced communication and understanding.
Life-Changing Experiences: Our programs have been described as "a productive and life-changing experience" by those we've served.
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Schedule a consultation to speak with one of our program facilitators to learn more about how our programs can help you or someone you love. We’ll your answer all your questions and give you a clear sense of what you can expect from us.
Proven Curricula
Backed by Science
Our programs are based on the renowned Program for the Education and Enrichment of Relational Skills (PEERS®). Our parent-mediated, 16-week programs for teens and young adults provide the building blocks of successful interpersonal and communication skills. We also teach our own 12-week program for lower support needs adults age 25+. Research-backed and trauma-informed, our courses also include neuroscience-backed nervous system education, including interoception experiments and somatic practices to promote co- and self-regulation and an overall improvement of mental and emotional health.
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PARTICIPANT in MAY 2023 GRADUATING CLASS
Once, in a dark time, life was a struggle. After coming to this group I have taken small steps out of the darkness. I’m thankful for the skills I learned and the friends I’ve made. I thank you for the kindness you showed me.”
—A. Lee, high school student
FAQs
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We teach a unique social skills program initially based on UCLA's Program for Education and Enrichment of Relational Skills (PEERS®), a proven program from UCLA started in 2004 — taught in 150 countries and has been translated into 12 languages.
We add 10-15 minutes of neuroscience-backed nervous system education to teach and practice the skills of interoception, co-regulation and self-regulation. Then, we break out into two separate rooms for parents/social coaches and teens/young adults.
Our Adults 25+ class is a little different: It runs for 12 weeks, is for lower support needs adults as it does not utilize a social coach or caregiver, and focuses on strengthening communication skills, applying these skills to dating and intimate relationships, and workplace relationships with coworkers and employers.
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Our classes are virtual, with meetings taking place via Zoom. Research indicates that teaching our curricula via Zoom demonstrates the exact same results compared to previously published results from the in-person delivery of the same intervention. Our programs are synchronous, face-to-face, with interbrain connectivity. Online group coaching allows us to serve people across the country. We continually add more classes to accommodate different time zones. Online programs are accessible to those in rural areas, those who have sensory and physical limitations, and accommodate busy family schedules. We also have planned in-person gatherings to further build our community.
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Every session starts with neuroscience-backed nervous system education to calm the nervous system and set the stage for social engagement.
The specific lessons taught vary, depending on the age of the participant. Our adult classes focus on dating and workplace dynamics, whereas our teens and young adult classes focus on finding a source of friends based on common interests, organizing social activities and handling different forms of bullying.
Some of the basics include:
- Conversation skills
- Choosing healthy friendships based on shared interests
- Effective use of digital communication & humor
- Starting, entering and exiting conversations
- Being a good sport
- Organizing successful get-togethers
- Handling disagreements
- Dating etiquette
- Self-advocacy
- And more
The teens, young adults and adults classes age 21-29 with higher support needs are parent-mediated. This means a parent or other caregiver attends a weekly class at the same time as their child, to learn to become stronger social supports at home. Parents and caregivers can expect to learn or improve skills to help their loved one make and keep friends, set healthy boundaries, and self-advocate for their unique needs, among others.
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Families with teens age 11 and up who struggle to communicate or to connect socially. Although our core curriculum was designed for the neurodivergent individual in mind, these skills are basic life skills applicable to everyone — whether identified as neurodivergent or not. Parents (aka social coaches) are also taught the same skills that their loved one is learning to help with carryover, In Real Life.
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Yes! We have a program for adults, age 21-29 with higher support needs, and a program for age 25+ for those who are more independent, with lower support needs. The essential core teaching is similar to our other programs, but focuses on adult scenarios such as employment and dating/intimate relationships. The 21+ group with higher support needs follows the 16-week coaching program, while the 25+ group with lower support needs is 12 weeks.
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All courses are taught by a neurodiverse team of licensed speech-language pathologists, occupational therapists, mental health providers, direct support professionals, and learning specialists -- most of whom are autistic and/or ADHD. Our team is also racially diverse and LGBTQ+ representative, further demonstrating our commitment to inclusion and diversity in all its forms.
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Our 8-week summer school program starts July 8th. Our next 16-week courses start August 2025. Our next 12-week adult program starts in April 2025. If you'd like more information than you can find on this FAQ page or on our website, please book a consultation to speak with our team.
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The investment in our program for teens and young adults includes 3.5 hours total of coaching per week, by licensed and insured professionals (1 hour and 45 minutes for the teen/young adult, 1 hour and 45 minutes for the parents/caregivers). All of the program materials are included -- the handouts, video replays of every class, and the supplementary materials on trauma-informed nervous system education, co- and self-regulation skills, and interoception skills.
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We take Oregon Health Plan and Moda. Otherwise, we are private pay. Our equitable pricing model takes the financial circumstances of families into consideration, and we have payment plans available.
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Regular and on-time participation matters to get the full benefit of the program. Sessions start promptly. If you already know you will be missing more than 3 sessions or will be absent for the first two sessions, we suggest you wait until the next course starts.
The same parent/caregiver must attend every session. Teens and young adults and their parents have weekly practice (video chats with other group members, video chats with friends to practice conversational skills, having virtual and in-person get-togethers). Other parents/caregivers are always welcome to attend, but we strongly discourage switching off each week, as each session builds on previously learned skills.